Today, both of my kids have colds. Nothing too serious, but they are stuffed up and have little cough-ers. Also, they are grouchy and whiny. I think that is to be expected, though.
Tonight, I took Marissa through her bedtime routine. Bath. Book. Nursing. She tried really hard to fall asleep, but she just couldn't breathe. I wiped her nose. She still couldn't breathe. She fussed and cried and generally got mad about being so darn tired but unable to sleep. So, I did something that I never (successfully) did when Mason was a baby. I got the aspirator and I sucked the snot out of her nose. She didn't like it. It made her super mad. But, I got enough out so she could breathe and suck her paci and fall asleep in my arms.
It made me think about the one time I tried to aspirate Mason's nose. He was probably about the same age as Marissa, maybe a little younger. I got one nostril and then he flipped out. I made him cry, which made me cry. I couldn't bring myself to aspirate the other nostril. It just felt wrong to do something that would make my little baby cry. I don't know for sure, but I have a feeling there wasn't much sleeping that night, probably because I never managed to get his little nose aspirated well enough to breathe.
After Marissa fell asleep and I put her in her crib, I thought about how being a mom the second time around is easier in a lot of ways. I understand now that I am necessarily going to have to do things that my kids won't like, and it doesn't make me a bad mom. In fact, it might make me a good mom that I am able to stick to my guns and do what I know will be best for my kids, even if, at the time, it makes them cry. Like tonight, when I asked Mason what he wanted for dinner, he said ice cream. I think it's pretty easy for most moms to say, "um. Nope. Ice cream is not a dinner option." He wanted ice cream, and actually did whine a little when I told him no, but he didn't have ice cream for dinner. That's just not okay.
Down the road, I'm sure I'll have to face down much tougher opponents than aspirators or ice cream for dinner, but these experiences are preparing me for the tougher battles that lay ahead. For that experience, I am truly grateful.